May 24, 2010

Father's Day...2 Months In The Making


When I met Le there was no doubt he wanted kids. He was ready right then. I didn't know if I would ever get there. One of his biggest desires was to have a daughter. It was easy to see why after watching him with his niece. To say Lexi adores him would be cliche. She truly thinks he hung the sun, the moon and the stars. He was hopeful that his daughter would feel the same. She did not.


She wanted Le to be within eye sight, earshot and proximity to touch, but no unsolicited affection, kind words or contact would she accept that she did not initiate. And she initiated none. She wanted to show him her projects, do her school work, watch movies, play ball and show off her new pronunciation of English. But if it involved holding hands, kisses at bedtime or random hugs, she shut Daddy out. Each night we would lie in bed he would lament about what he had done wrong that day. He kept saying that he was okay if it took her years to love him, but I knew he was secretly asking God for an outpouring of love from his little girl.


She talked about him constantly on days he was at the station or at the print shop. Days that we met him for lunch she would ask "Daddy, lunch?" If my answer was yes, a six year old "Yipeee" erupted from the back seat, but upon his arrival, she seemed to ignore his existence. Until a few days ago.

I heard his car door slam and I immediately heard the front door open and slam shut. I ran because I thought Alazar had managed to unhinge the lock and go outside. It wasn't my son but my daughter, wrapped around Le's leg screaming "Hi, Daddy! Hi Daddy!" His hands were full and so were his eyes and on walkway of our house holding his girl, my husband celebrated his first real father's day.

11 comments:

Gayla said...

Oh- tears in my eyes...

Gorgeous.

Erin Moore said...

[chills]

Leslie said...

wow.....

Heidi said...

I found your blog as I searched friends' blogs for other families who adopted from Ethiopia. We are awaiting a referral right now and I came across your blog last week. I've now read every single post as I dream about our little girl and pray for her safety until we come to bring her home. I absolutely love the way you write and this post was no different. I was crying by the end of it - and I don't even know you - how crazy is that? Thanks for sharing your triumphs and struggles with the blogosphere - I am grateful. ~Heidi

Gail said...

beautiful! simply beautiful!

Anonymous said...

Thank you sweetheart. It has been amazing to see her become my daughter. I love you

Laura Ferry-Jimenez said...

hip, hip, hooray!! now the two girls in his life just need to go pick out a tie! haha.

kids will do things on their time, not ours, no matter at what age you become their parents. congratulations!!! :)

Rebecca said...

That's really sweet! It's not always easy in the adjustment period - but always worth it!

Tracy said...

That's awesome! I'm so glad they had a little breakthrough!

Thanks for your sweet comment on my blog! We're so thrilled!

Angel said...

Yeah, I'm crying now.

Layla Payton said...

Oh, my goodness! That is what Father's Day is really about. What a beautiful story.